Where the defining moments live
January 9th, 2012 by adminWith each turning point in my life, I am aware of how my memory guides me to a person connected to that shift.
I am in love with life, and I hold these people in my heart because they are a part of what has become this life that I love & cherish. They taught me something that is special. Something that I needed. I am who I am because I have grown through these people. I learned when I didn’t know I was learning.
The moment in which my life changed direction might have occurred as a subtle look, an extra squeeze at the end of a handshake, amidst tears and hurt, a perspective raised in argument that I was too blind to see, a written line of text, or a comfortable conversation that lasted 9 hours. It might have been someone I trusted, or someone I decided to trust much later, or someone who I despised on some level. It might have been in an office at work or at an event with 3000 people, or sitting around a fire. It might be a lifetime of moments with this person or a single, silently abrupt pause that said more than the words that preceded or followed. But these people clearly helped me, to define me.
I like me and who I am so far.
I rarely realized at the time how important each of these people were, or which of the moments would be the one that my heart would define as the ‘life changing one’ upon reflection. To others the moments might have appeared to be mistakes. Wrong. Chances. Obvious. Commonplace. Far from noteworthy. Even to the person to which it is connected.
I also don’t know now who will shape the multitude of shifts I have yet to make in all of my tomorrows. I am not yet who I will end up as. I’ve possibly not had ‘THE" defining moment of my life yet, or maybe I have. Time will tell, and my heart will decide.
Since I am unaware of who may be connected to my next shift, I find it very easy to love people. To be curious about them and to care about how I might come to help them. To have fun. To appreciate what I may not understand, while knowing that perhaps one day I will. To trust my beliefs. And to let go.
To live in this place in my heart is to bask in gratitude and connection. Gratitude for helping me become who I am with the unlimited potential I have, plus connection in a form I can only language as Big Love~ that which keeps us somehow forever intertwined. It empowers me; enables me to forgive. Both myself and others. I love me more as a result of keeping this place in my heart open. I know there is so much room for more to be kept here.
Wellness & Health Care Practitioners are burning themselves out by leaving $$ on the table
January 3rd, 2012 by adminCould your practice be more lucrative than it currently is? Do you crave the work/life balance that you preach to your clients? Does the ‘Poverty Mindset’ cause you to treat for free because you just WANT to help others? Let me share the solution with you that will enable you to continue doing what you love, for even MORE people who need it, in a way that offers financial and time freedom.
Would it be ok if I share how I can relate to you?
A few years ago, I was looking at developing my own product - be it an e-book, a downloadable seminar series or video productions of the workshops I teach. Why? Because in my coaching practice, I trade my time for dollars. Sound familiar? I essentially get paid by the hour so I am capped by both the number of hours in a day, and the amount per hour I charge. This does not bode well for time freedom or flexibility. Plus, it’s pretty much the same premise as an employee, eh?!
But being self employed is a DREAM isn’t it??
Well yes, absolutely - AND there are important considerations. As a self employed professional, I knew that if I wanted to take time off, not only was I going to lose out on the income when I was not working, but I would ALSO have the expense of paying for my holiday AND still covering the cost of my overhead whether I was there or not. I knew that I wanted to create a residual income that would bring me out of essentially the same hamster wheel everyone else was on . Really. I knew from my mentors and other people in the industry that this was they way to go if I ever wanted to create time freedom for myself and still have a growing income stream . Except creating my OWN product meant more time and work - and I didn’t have a ton of it to begin with!
In one of my previous businesses, I had numerous other companies advertising my products for me - I would give them a percentage of the sales and I would have a broader market share because these companies were in markets that I was not. We called that drop shipping.
Even in that business I would look for complimentary products that I could promote and support, that would give me another income stream; but that wouldn’t require us to carry more inventory or deal with the customer requirements ( like shipping or returns) directly. This was our affiliate marketing. For example, we added fresh flower delivery to compliment the gifts we were already producing, and we added promotional products for our corporate clients - but we never touched these products; they never came through our warehouse, as that would mean higher labour costs of course.
Virtually every business owner understands how valuable a complimentary or add on service generating passive income is. Not only can that feature add a second (or third or fourth) income stream, but it is also an EXTREMELY important client generator for our primary business model. Typically we market to a specific niche or segment. You cannot be all things to all clients. However, that complimentary product you are thinking of offering? It markets to a whole other group of people, who may in fact be interested in what else you provide. You might not win them over with one thing but the second attracts them in an instant.
So how might my program benefit you as a self employed business owner? Or even as an employee?
1. Without health, we have, well, not a heck of a lot. Nor do your clients. If health declines, so does their participation in business & economy - and client’s priorities tend to change when they are preoccupied with their health challenges. We also know that over 80% of physical results have to do with what you feed your body. Dr. Jeff Lustig, a chiropractor, shared with me that 80-90% of patient complaints have a nutritional component to them. You can model the solution personally by trialing this program and seeing how it can benefit you AND those you know.
2. If you are in a health/personal wellbeing related field such as :
- Nursing
- Personal & Athletic Training
- Nutritionist or Dietician
- Chiropractor
- Massage Therapist
- Coaching
- Reflexologist
- Occupational Therapist
- Dentist or Hygienist
- Physician
A) You know first hand what I just mentioned about the impact of deteriorating health and well being. The fact that you are already within the industry makes adding this program a ‘no-brainer’ for you, just like my adding fresh flowers to personalized gifts was a no brainer to a gift delivery service.
B) You are likely in the same position I was with caps on your income/time freedom/flexibility and you may at times question HOW you thought this would be the best choice for the rest of your life. It is imperative to consider a residual income stream. It IS the answer to the LIFESTYLE goals that are missing. And the fact that my program is a health and wellness program that addresses the nutritional needs (Remember, Dr Jeff said that is 80-90% of the problem) means that it is an obvious first choice for ANYONE in the health care field.
3. Every person is looking for a better financial situation. Relate to my scenario above at all? No one would have guessed on the outside that I wanted an income opportunity. Never pre-judge or make the decision for someone else. If you can help even ONE person discover that they are not limited by their current finances or predicament, would that be a good thing? Would your primary business benefit if your CLIENTS had greater resources of passive income? You bet.
4. Over 50% of the worlds population is under the age of 30. They are savvy, time crunched people who like convenience, product groupings, package deals and they are becoming well aware that they are fully responsible for their well being. Meet them where they are at and give them what they want with programs that fit every need.
5. You don’t have to quit what you love to pursue something that will set you free when you choose the right time. This is a program that you will NEVER fail at as long as you don’t quit. Let me share something with you. If you helped 1 person a week for 4 years, that would earn you a million dollars. Would that be a useful thing? Adding this income stream in the pockets of your life is absolutely possible. It creates CHOICE. It allows YOU to decide what you will make a priority each day. And the creation and formulation has already been done. The plan is in place, you just have to say yes and begin.
6. This industry is team based. You benefit as a result of COLLECTIVE effort and the time invested equation vs the desired results is fantastic. The compensation plan of my program is the best in the industry for several reasons. It’s simplicity, it’s upfront income, it’s exponential capacity to name a few. The residual and passive benefits are absolutely accessible to everyone.
99% of North Americans have poor nutrition and don’t know it. 97% need to make more money.
In my coaching practice, it comes up time and time again that people have a core desire to HELP OTHERS. You did not choose your profession solely because it sounded like a good idea - you chose it because your very nature is about helping others too. But if you are burning yourself out, losing income when you need a day off or looking for a way to have a MUCH larger reach, we need to talk. This is one very simple way to make all that possible and to have visible physical results very quickly. The results oriented programs make being a self employed business person a much more rewarding experience. It makes choosing an early retirement date a realistic plan for employees, it provides hope for a better opportunity for those who don’t have the job of their dreams or a chance at retirement, and it helps us all regain our health in the process. Whether you decide adding this program to your business is for you or not, someone else KNOWS it is, and will decide that this is the best thing they could every do for their business, their family and their dreams. Grab what is on the table - it’s all yours if you want it!
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Krysta Chapman is a Mindset & Wellness Coach with Drop in the Pond. If you would like further information about the program she talks about, and to learn more about how it will benefit you, your clients and your business, send her a message at krysta@dropinthepond.com or visit www.besthealthbestwealth.com
Who’s first?
December 8th, 2011 by adminPut yourself first. Look after yourself. Take care of you before you can give your all to another.
Most of us have heard those suggestions. Some of you may have spoken them to a friend and others have said them out loud in support or in defense of a choice they were trying to make (or are currently!) In fact, to be blunt, I often hear this from clients who are looking for an escape clause from a relationship, or other responsibility.
The thing is, the meaning of the words is different to each of us - and in fact, until you have REALLY begun to genuinely, authentically, and lovingly take care of yourself, it is hard to know what it really even means. What it DOES NOT mean in all cases, is that you have to LEAVE or ESCAPE to create the change you want.
Other times, we are FORCED to put ourselves first, which then feels like a foreign mode of behaviour, so in addition to the unrequested situation, we must learn about ourselves very quickly. I know that for me, I decided at one time in my life that I SHOULD put myself first. But even in making that decisive step, it was obvious that I just didn’t know what that truly looked like or what it meant for me at the time. I then had to face reality when the situation I was in evolved in a direction that wasn’t my choice. We can’t dictate our circumstances, we can only manage our responses.
How do I know that the long ago attempt to put myself first was really like a fumbling first kiss that missed the mark? Because I used the word should . Most of the time when we think we should do or be something, it is based on someone else’s values or ideas that we have or are attempting to adopt as our own .
For me, it seemed as though I would have to give UP something precious, and as a result, become what I labeled as SELFISH. It was a painful choice regardless.
It would be so cliche for me to say right now - life is about balance. That too is just another phrase that people throw out without having a clear understanding of how it is to be in balance. But digress as I do, the point is, do you REALLY know what you want when you say you need to put yourself first?
The values that underlie the desire are key. When we know what personal values seem to be compromised enough to cause us dis-comfort, THEN we can make EFFECTIVE changes. It may become clear that a drastic, big change is not in fact necessary, in order to really and truly put yourself first.
In order to put yourself first, you might state that you want to ‘find yourself’. Again, cliche, but what is really being acknowledged is that you have become, (or have never known) what your own personal values truly are. Welcome to the first step in discovering your authentic self.
Your purpose is your own
November 12th, 2011 by adminThe struggle of people who don’t see or feel themselves as defined. It is everywhere - sometimes very obvious and other times, not.
I hear them say with a hint of hopelessness or a pleading tone "What’s the point?", "I don’t know why I’m even here" or "I just want to find my purpose; so that I know what I am supposed to do next", "What am I supposed to do?".
I watch the patterns of others still who unconsciously gravitate to a cause, a relationship or a lifestyle that superficially makes them feel important, connected and as though they are making a difference.
That’s not to say that those who support others, or who get involved, are wasting their time or doing so for selfish means. Not at all! But there is a difference between living your life and forsaking your own purpose ; and living your life while contributing to the sake of others.
If my belief is correct, each human has a purpose. Some people know theirs very early on, and others aren’t aware of what they are meant to ‘be or do’ throughout their entire lifetime. Yet after they are gone it is discovered in their legacy; in the lives that they touched - those who were impacted.
I don’t think it is imperative for us to always discover our purpose; I do believe it is necessary for people to trust that they HAVE a purpose and LIVE as though they believe this. Living on purpose rather than by whim.
Feel that pinch? Can you live with it?
October 20th, 2011 by adminShe said it had taken about 3 or 4 years to finally come in and see me. The last 6-8 months she had especially wanted to come in. She just didn’t.
How often can you relate to this; knowing there is something you have wanted for a long time, or something you wish was different but in reality, you haven’t taken any actual steps towards it?
We have opportunities land in front of us every single day. We might hear a speaker that seems to particularly motivate us; or read a book that at the time, seems like a life changer. We might have a conversation with someone that is particularly inspiring or perhaps we have a life experience that totally seems to change our perspective. Or maybe we suddenly realize that we absolutely CAN go into business for ourself and we CAN create wealth and time freedom that we want - and so we buy the starter kit.
And there it stops. That idea, the inspiration, the life changing perspective - oh yes, they are still there, a part of who we are now. We just don’t DO anything more.
We saw a surge of the hopefulness that comes withthese ’shift glimpses’ as I call them. It happened about the time that the movie The Secret made it’s splash. People were inspired to dream big and realize that they can create their futures - that everything we have believed up to this moment has created our reality. For some, it was enough of a seed and they ran with it and as a result massive, life changing success stories emerged.
For others, it helped bring about a simple awareness of many choices that were previously thought to be unconscious - and people took more responsibility for their own success. But for the vast majority, it fizzeled out and daily, everyday life patterns were quickly the norm again. These people may not be comfortable with where they are of with what is going on in their lives, with their health or in their relationships, however they tend to stay with what is familiar rather than take a chance - no matter how small it might seem to others, and take a new step from what they have been doing.
For these people "Change won’t occur until the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of changing." This is one of the reasons people make comments like:
- I’ve wanted to come see you for 4 years
- I have known for a long time that I should change the way I eat
- I have wanted to start running for ages but my knees/my ankles/my cardio…etc. stopped me.
- I’ve tried that kind of business before but it never worked
- That is just they way they are, I guess I have to accept it
- I can’t make a difference
- There is no way that will work
- I couldn’t be like you
As uncomfortable as they say they are in their present state, they are actually not uncomfortable enough to do anything different. The pain isn’t great enough to cause them to cross the threshold and change something.
Of course there are also the people who are happy to spend their life complaining to others, about others, with others. They will always have a never ending supply of doom and gloom in the people and experiences they have because naturally they are attracting it by their beliefs and assumptions…But that is another blog altogether.
The pain that I spoke of has many faces. Fear of course is one of the big ones, unknowns, expectations of consequences, assumptions of results, what ‘I’m sure will happen if…’, and actual physiological pain too. What most people say though about moving through or beyond or by getting over this ‘thing’ that kept them stuck, is that it was easier/less complicated/less painful or simply more ‘worth it’ than they ever expected.
Generally, it is also much simpler than we have made it out to be. In the client’s case; she said "I finally just picked up the phone and made the appointment. Then I showed up."
What happens next is steps in the journey and lots of learning. But the one thing that is most significant? She is not in the same place she was for 3 or 4 years, anymore.
Need to get up off your A$$ and make things happen?
August 4th, 2011 by adminI am constantly telling my clients (and whoever else that asks) that change is not about your circumstances , what ’seems’ to be stopping you or holding you back or getting in your way. Problems are not the issue.
Change is about the structure - the "How you do what you are doing" and therefore changing the structure - not the so called problem.
This is another great example of what I mean by that. Get it, got it? Good.
Money Beliefs
June 12th, 2011 by adminAre Your Beliefs Around Money Holding You Back? What You Need to Know Now
Money doesn’t grow on trees. Money equals power and success.
It’s easier to spend than save money. There is a limit to how much I can earn.
What ideas shape your relationship with money? Explore what you believe about it and how to change those beliefs.
Listen to our Let’s Talk Money Podcast to hear how we develop and reinforce our beliefs around money - and how to change them.
with special guest Krysta Chapman, Mindset Coach and Change Strategist with Drop in the Pond.
For more information or questions, you can reach Krysta at www.dropinthepond.com
Is it really a set back? Or could it be a Set UP?
June 10th, 2011 by adminOccasionally people question my ability to stay "positive". Months ago someone told me that sometimes people are turned off by the positive outlook because they don’t believe that things are really ‘that good’. This friend shared that as far as he was concerned, someone who is happy the majority of the time is faking it. That life actually sucks and anyone who sees the good is either looking through rose coloured glasses or is full of shit. That may be true for some, I agree. And more than a few years ago I probably faked it way more than I FELT it. But not these days.
Chalene Johnson summed it up beautifully today: Positive people don’t worry about whether or not they’re being perceived as positive or not. A positive person walks in faith and KNOWS that everything that is happening, no matter HOW bad it may seem at the time, is a set up NOT a set back!
Again, I know there are people out there who will be full of "Yeah but’s…." and I refer them to my blog entitled ‘Does your BUT keep you Stuck ‘ from 2009. If you want to CHANGE your outlook; really, truly, earnestly CHANGE it to become less negative it will take a bit of work. What is at play here are some beliefs - old ideas that you have accepted as ‘the way it is’ that prevent you from actually trusting. Ideas that get in the way of the options that might in fact change your life.
But is living a full, fun, joyful and positive life really worth it? You decide. When you change your mind, you close your gaps.
Reaching for your Goals
May 8th, 2011 by adminA while ago I took a group through an experiential exercise designed to explore the non-verbal, physiological correlation to obtaining something they want but don’t yet have.
I have since done a scaled down version with several other groups and find the resulting comments, realizations and facial expressions interesting.
My instructions to the groups are purposely vague and simple; and were inspired by my favourite trainer Andrew Austin of the UK.
Stand up and think about the thing you want to do or achieve - often described as your ‘Why’. As you think about this desired goal, reach for it. Actually demonstrate how you reach for your goals .
The first thing noticed is that some people instantly put their hands in the air and reach up and in front of themselves, sometimes a little to the right, or a little to the left, and often taking a step forward in the process. Some had their arms open wide and others took one hand and scooped the air straight in front.
The majority though stood still, puzzled looks on their faces and looked around to see what others were doing. Another handful appeared annoyed and folded their arms across their chests.
I then asked the entire group to pay attention to what was going on for them at that moment.
- Did they trust themselves to know what to do and risk trying?
- Did they wonder if they were ‘doing it right’ and wait to see what others did and base their actions on what they saw?
- Did they make a small attempt and then drop their hands and give up?
- Did they have an internal dialogue going on that said something like "This is stupid, I don’t even know what she’s talking about" or "I never get these kinds of exercises".
I then asked them to consider whether this was a familiar pattern or response in their lives - trust and do, wait and watch, shut down and judge, confuse and procrastinate, and a myriad of other reactions and combinations.
They were remarkably surprised when most of them answered "Yes, this is familiar, this is how I …" or, "this is what happens when I …".
How we do one thing is usually how we do everything. And if you aren’t getting the results you want, it might be time to consider the REAL reason why not. Need help shifting? It’s not as hard as one would guess.